that when I see people talking about their desire to teach, or their struggles with teacher preparation, in conjunction with their personal identity (especially if they identify as as QUILTBAG or have mental health concerns), my gut reaction is to warn them to keep those parts of themselves under wraps. To hide themselves away instead of risking the chance that those things will be discovered and they won’t be able to live out their dreams.
I am more convinced every day that we are doing everyone a disservice by forcing teachers to keep fundamental parts of their identities and health under the rug at the risk of the profession they love. That we defend it as “protecting our children” from the looming specters of things that are already happening in their worlds makes it even more damaging, because so many of those kids would be better cared for if they were allowed to see that adults with those experiences are living fulfilled lives all around them.
By forcing the people who work with kids to keep all aspects of their personal identities undercover, we only reinforce everyone’s sense of loneliness in an already lonely world.
This is a fundamental struggle in the career. Lumped in with what are the sharing of personal beliefs or lifestyles that may somehow deviate from the school culture’s norm.
Teachers are just as afraid as some students to reveal they may be an atheist, Mormon, Jew, gay, struggling with food or depression, or even balancing a lifestyle-affecting illness like diabetes, migraines, or celiac.
I’m not saying that 15-year-olds are the appropriate people to broadcast personal information with, but a teacher shouldn’t be afraid to share with a student one-one-one who is struggling. Like, what if a student has an insulin pump and is feeling self-conscious?
I once had a student who was suddenly out sick and came back, sitting very uncomfortably. I eventually found out the poor guy had a pilonidal cyst. It was my first year teaching, and my stomach lurched to say, but I quietly said, “Hey man, I had one too and a 5 inch scar to prove it. Let me know if you want to talk.” His eyes lit up and he later came to ask me questions, and told me I made him feel so much better. THAT is being a teacher AND a human being. It’s a humiliating, humbling, lifestyle-affecting condition; how can I just let him sit there and feel alone?
Furthermore, by NOT sharing something of ourselves, students will continue to think their limited cultural realm is IT. We HAVE a Mormon church here in town, and yet students don’t think any actually exist. When they make polygamy jokes, my new favorite line is, “You do realize we have a Mormon teacher here, right? You may want to watch yourself because I’m not going to tell you who it is.” (Not that it’s my place, but also they SHOULD watch themselves.)
It’s easy to right off some teenage behavior as “cries for attention”, but really, students are often crying out for someone like them.
“Boys are told from a young age that whatever they do will be excused under the “boys will be boys” mantra, and that “boys will be boys” mentality leads to what I call the “boiling frog” problem of women’s sexual boundaries. I call it that because if you put a frog into a pot of boiling water, it will jump right out, but if you put a frog into a pot of room-temperature water and slowly heat it to a boil, the frog will acclimate as it heats and never jump out, eventually boiling to death. Similarly, when we learn as young girls to tolerate “low-level” boundary violations like the ones we often are forced to suffer in silence at school, at home and on the street – bra-snapping, boob-grabbing, ass pinching, catcalling, dick flashing “all in good fun” relentless violations that adults and authorities routinely ignore – it makes it harder for us to notice when even greater boundaries are being violated, eventually leading to the reality that many women who are raped just freeze and fall silent, because that’s what they’ve been taught to do over and over since day one. You tell me what’s more infantilizing: repeatedly letting boys (and grown men) off the hook for their behavior because “boys will be boys” and we can’t ever expect any differently, or creating a consent standard in which all partners take active responsibility for their partner’s safety, and which acknowledges the truly diseased sexual culture we’re soaking in every day.”—
Two years ago, the daughter of a friend of mine, who is the same age as my daughter (we are talking second grade at the time) was accosted by a boy their age on the playground at school. The boy kept grabbing her in the crotch, and laughing, as if it was a game because it was upsetting her.
She told their teacher, who did everything right and called the school psychologist, and all the parents.
The school? Hushed it up, or tried to. The school psychologist kept excusing it away as “things kids do”. My friend was told that it wasn’t like it was sexual assault or anything, because they were only seven. A boy of seven can’t sexually assault a girl the same age, you see. It’s impossible. Dontcha know.
The psychologist went as far as to tell them all that if my friend’s daughter was ‘rewarded’ with attention for making a big deal out of something so slight as kids playing, that she was going to learn that she could “use something like this in the future for attention”.
We live in a rape culture, folks. A world where a seven year old girl can be sexually assaulted and then told that she is wrong and only looking for attention when she has the courage to speak out against what was perpetrated against her.
We are put in the pot as babies, and the kyriarchy keeps turning the heat up gradually as we grow.
I was in first grade and on the school bus, a boy classmate kept pulling at my outfit (one of those skirts-attached-to-pants numbers) like he was trying to see under my clothes. I got mad and told a teacher and she then proceeded to yell at me for making the boy cry. Because I was being mean to him.
So is the Tea Party perspective to let parents object to any factual content they find to be inconvenient? This type of nonsense is ridiculous.
The Tea Party dominated New Hampshire Legislature on Wednesday overrode the governor’s veto to enact a new law allowing parents to object to any part of the school curriculum.
The state House voted 255-112 and Senate 17-5 to enact H.B. 542, which will allow parents to request an alternative school curriculum for any subject to which they register an objection. Gov. John Lynch (D) vetoed the measure in July, saying the bill would harm education quality and give parents control over lesson plans.
“For example, under this bill, parents could object to a teacher’s plan to: teach the history of France or the history of the civil or women’s rights movements,” Lynch wrote in his veto message. “Under this bill, a parent could find ‘objectionable’ how a teacher instructs on the basics of algebra. In each of those cases, the school district would have to develop an alternative educational plan for the student. Even though the law requires the parents to pay the cost of alternative, the school district will still have to bear the burden of helping develop and approve the alternative. Classrooms will be disrupted by students coming and going, and lacking shared knowledge.”
This shit is crazy.
I find myself hoping that the only evidence which eventually remains is electronic and irretrievably corrupted so future generations won’t quite know how monstrously, unforgivably stupid was this new dark age.
Just because you gave birth to them doesn’t mean you get to determine the kind of information they are exposed to.
What would happen if a Dementor handled a Horcrux? Would it affect the soul held in it?
Hum. I think dementors would recognize the soul in the Horcrux, but not be very interested in it because Horcruxes don’t really have *feelings* they can feed on. Imo, the soul inside the Horcrux would recognize the dementor as something that could harm it. That is to say if Voldemort circa Borgin and Burkes, having only made one Horcrux, somehow let Marvolo’s ring get close to a dementor, I think the bit of soul inside the ring would, y’know, not be comfortable in that situation, and that Voldemort would probably be able to feel that. Of course by the time Voldy had seven Horcruxes, he definitely wouldn’t know when a dementor was near any of them.
Favourite Person: Minerva McGonagall. Because she’s fierce and every time she does something amazing for Harry I melt. She’s what I aspire to be. Least Favourite Person: Umbitch. God, she’s awful. I don’t think there’s a more awful person in all of literature. Prettiest Person: Fred Weasley. He and George combat everything that’s wrong with the world with laughter, and there’s something so gorgeous about that. Most Beautiful Person: Honestly? Harry. Jo is fantastic at allowing the Trio to grow up throughout the books, and because Harry is the main character, we see it most through him. And I find the way you can watch Harry grow into the man who saved the entire Wizarding World and came out of it sane incredibly beautiful Person I Want to Marry: Ron Weasley. Okay, so I’m basically Hermione. And yes, Ron does infuriate me to no end most of the time. But tall, skinny, and funny? Totally my type. And I just want to take Ron and hold him until he feels better about himself. Plus then I’d be a Weasley Person With Whom I Want to Be Best Friends: Nymphadora Tonks. She’s a badass, she’s an Auror, and she understands Remus Lupin. I just want to be close to someone who can love as hard as she does. Favourite Pairing: Harry/Ginny. Yeah, I’m sorry. I know. But I just love them together. I love that Ginny is probably the only person in the world who can understand what Harry’s been through enough to be in a relationship with him. Also Harry/Ron/Hermione bromance for many of the same reasons. Now that’s a beautiful pairing. Unpopular Opinion: I love Harry’s angst in OotP.
Favourite Person: Chris Colfer. And other people who put all they have into their lives and make the world a better place because of it. And who are hilarious. Least Favourite Person: The teacher I had for my Social Foundations class last semester. And other people who represent an enemy to education. Prettiest Person: Darren Criss. Most Beautiful Person: My grandmother. Person I Want to Marry: someone who can make me fall head over heels with them. Person With Whom I Want to Be Best Friends: Barack Obama. Or John Green. Favourite Pairing: NPH/David Burtka. Unpopular Opinion: People are actually really awesome
Favourite Person: Haymitch. Because for some reason he reminds me of Hagrid. Least Favourite Person: President Snow. Because ew. Prettiest Person: Cinna. I don’t think this needs much explanation. He does what he can to do what’s right, and he really helps Katniss. Most Beautiful Person: Yeah, that’s probably Peeta. Because he’s just a really GOOD person, and he makes some mistakes and is a bit too obsessed with Katniss, but really. He’s a beautiful person, in a fragile sort of way. Person I Want to Marry: Gale. I don’t wanna talk about it. Person With Whom I Want to Be Best Friends: Iiii dunno… Maybe Finnick? Favourite Pairing: Finnick/Annie. Obviously. Unpopular Opinion: I ship Katniss/Gale with the angry fist of God
Favourite Person: The Doctor. Yeah, It’s probably cliche. But I just love the stuffing out of him. Least Favourite Person: Mickey. I just have no use for him. And the fact that he gets with Martha is just dumb. Prettiest Person: Jack. Besides the obvious, he’s just kinda a Glinda-type person, isn’t he? Most Beautiful Person: Wilfred. He’s just this giant ray of light. I love him. Person I Want to Marry: Rory. I have all the Rory feels. Because he just gives with all he has, doesn’t he? But I can’t separate him from Amy, because he loves her so goddamn much. So. Person With Whom I Want to Be Best Friends: The Doctor. I would love to be the Donna to his Mad Man. Favourite Pairing: Ramy. And also Dardis. Unpopular Opinion: Ummm.. I don’t really love Rose? OH. I know one. I think it’s time for us to get a new doctor and companions. Even though I love the current ones to bits.
YES. But I’m gonna narrow it down to Princess Movies because whoa that’s a large fandom.
Favourite Person: Belle. It’s not narcissistic because I’m pretty sure I’m the way I am partly because of her.
Least Favourite Person: Umm I’m gonna go with Frollo. But it’s a good kind of least favorite. Y’know? He’s just so real and so evil.
Prettiest Person: Pocahontas. There’s the flawless hair and enormous boobs, but I’m mostly talking about how she can SEE THE FUCKING COLORS OF THE WIND, MAN. And she tries to do what’s right and she’s just so, so good at heart. And loving.
Most Beautiful Person: Beast. Gosh, if you were to make one of those color-representations of Prince Adam, it would be so messed up and so very beautiful. He’s brought up to be so shallow and so horrible, and because of that, something terrible happens to him. And he’s so very hurt when Belle meets him. But she brings out the beauty in him that Mrs. Potts and Lumiere knew was there all along. And in Something There, he literally glows. That’s the scene I’m thinking about when I say he’s beautiful.
Person I Want to Marry: Milo Thatch. Good mother of hnnng. Smart, passionate, a nerd if there ever was one. And I have a bit of a thing for languages… And tall, skinny boys with prominent cheekbones and glasses.
Person With Whom I Want to Be Best Friends: Mulan. She’s strong, she’s funny, she’s passionate, and she’s super smart. Who wouldn’t want to be friends with that girl?
Favourite Pairing: Eugene/Rapunzel. I almost said Aladdin/Jasmine, but these two are just so good for one another. Rapunzel makes Flynn light up, and she breaks down his barriers. And Eugene doesn’t judge Rapunzel and knows when to help her understand things Gothel never explained to her, and when to just let her be herself.
Unpopular Opinion: I have a really hard time enjoying The Little Mermaid, because gosh, Ariel is just horrible, and Eric is stupid. I have a whole rant about it, but I don’t want to get worked up. It’s got great music, though, so I’m conflicted about it.
“I wanted you to see what real courage is, instead of getting the idea that courage is a man with a gun in his hand. It’s when you know you’re licked before you begin, but you begin anyway and see it through no matter what.”— Harper Lee —To Kill a Mockingbird (via fearlesslydetour)
[8:36:39 PM] Caity Maddox: My father once had a friend who was a hooligan and then became a born again christian
[8:37:34 PM] Caity Maddox: and he was calling my mother a sinner and all these things because she doesnt go to church and apparently she got so pissed and flustered she was just like FUCK YOU JOE I AM A CHRISTIAN
[8:37:53 PM] Caity Maddox: and im adding this my list of “lynda maddox is a thug”
I think this is the most perfect thing. So I made this. And I intend to use it.
It occurs to me that the placement looks misogynistic. But really I just put the name of the person I liked most in front…. It also occurs to me they’re all in reverse-dominant order. What that says about me idk.
11. Precious and Meaningful Objects- My childhood teddy bear, pillow, and blanket, the opal ring my grandmother gave me for double digits, and the elephant my adopted Aunt and Uncle got me at the Fair when i was like 6.
13. Disney Films- Beauty and the Beast, The Lion King, Tangled, Aladdin, Mulan.
20. Books- To Kill A Mockingbird, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows, Ella Enchanted, Will Grayson^2, A Wrinkle in Time